Sooo, what now???

I haven’t written a blog in over a month and to be quite honest, I haven’t felt inspired to. Partly because I was busy promoting my book and partly because I was just not all that interested in sharing. It’s been a wild 6 weeks since…

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PURPOSEFUL AF

Two days prior, I’d presented at The Daytime Emmys. Miss Vivica A. Fox and I handed the award for Outstanding Morning Program to the team from Good Morning America. It was one of the coolest experiences and proudest moments…

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Chapter 6 - Rattled AF (Part 3/3)

The search continued for another week and the pressure only intensified because the following weekend was Labor Day and we all know the best furniture deals of the year can be found during
that week. I wish I didn’t have to work within a budget, but…

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Chapter 6 - Rattled AF (Part 2/3)

The desk came easily. Emile and I walked into a furniture store that was going out of business and purchased the beautiful white lacquered desk I’m sitting at right now for only…

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Chapter 6 - Rattled AF (Part 1/3)

“We’re not getting a black chair; I think they’re so tacky and I can’t write a book feeling like I’m sitting in a stuffy office somewhere, wasting my life away!”

I was adamant about not wanting…

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Chapter 4 - AJ AF! (Part 3/3)

Although the new man in our lives was doing just about everything right, I still held onto a certain degree of skepticism, because my mom and sister’s well-being depended on it. That may have been 100 percent untrue, but…

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Chapter 4 - AJ AF! (Part 2/3)

This way of thinking started a pattern that would take hold of my life for nearly thirty years. More often than not, I’ve taken ownership of far more than I should. It’s not a healthy habit to create, but as a child, so much of what was going on around me felt like a direct result of my existence, and my brother’s words that day only…

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Chapter 4 - AJ AF! (Part 1/3)

Little AJ was in constant awe of his older siblings. I wanted to be like them, I wanted to be around them, and I wanted to do everything they did. I was a typical baby brother in some ways…

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Flipping the Script Intro (Part 3/3)

Along my journey, I’ve found that many people would rather live a life without meaning, struggling to make ends meet and lacking basic happiness, rather than putting in the work necessary to effect positive change in themselves and in those around them. I get it. I’ve been that guy, and it’s no fun.

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Flipping the Script Intro (Part 2/3)

I’d like to introduce you to a little place that many of you may recognize: a place I like to call “rock bottom.” Here, nothing seems to go right—EVER. For me, this place represents the deepest kind of despair, the type that stirs up every bit of insecurity or self-doubt I’ve ever experienced in life. This place makes me feel like I am…

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Flipping the Script Intro (Part 1/3)

As I sat on my toilet seat one cool October night, staring out the bathroom window of my tenth-floor apartment and begging God to forgive me for the choice I was about to make, I knew I’d reached a new low. I’d struggled with depression my entire life, and the thought of…

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OUR OWN WORST CRITIC

What would life look like if we all started to show ourselves the grace we naturally show others on a day to day basis?  

If you're a total jerk and treating people poorly is your natural state, then this blog is not meant for you.  You should seek out therapy or…

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Re-Write YOUR Story!

Why is it so hard to step out of our comfort zones, especially when everything inside is telling us to shake things up?  Are we afraid of failure?  Are we afraid of the unknown?  Are we afraid of what others might think or say about us?  The answer to all of these questions…

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White Men Can't Communicate?

Growing up, I thought a lack of hops was the only thing we had trouble with but as an adult, I’ve realized communication is even more difficult for many of us than getting to the rim on a basketball court.  Much of what I learned growing up in a small town was influenced by the movies and TV shows…

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MY 45-MINUTE BRAIN TUMOR!

I’m in my hometown right now, spending some time with my family and finishing my book.  I started it here, so it just felt right to return home to wrap it up, but as always, my mom likes to commit me to a laundry list of things every time I’m here.  The older I get, the less my visits home feel like a break from the chaos of living in Los Angeles and the more they feel like a traveling circus of one.  I have a tendency to be a people pleaser and…

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Gay-J: MY Coming Out Story

In honor of pride month and in memory off all of my LGBTQ brothers and sisters who never lived long enough to tell their stories, I’m going to tell you my coming out story.  You’re not getting the whole story, because I’ve been coming out in some way, shape or form the past two decades, but…

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The $81 Beet Salad!

Do you want to know the only thing worse than that moment on a dreaded group dinner when the server presents the check and someone makes the gut-wrenching suggestion to just divide the tab equally, even though you purposely ordered a small beet salad and ice water because…

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Love Yourself...ALWAYS!

I’m 37 years old and in some ways I feel like I’m just now getting to know myself.  For much of my life, whether I was aware of it or not, I struggled with self-love.  It’s always felt so natural for me to show love and compassion to others, but showing the same to myself has never been easy.  I’m not a selfish person, I know that, but…

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"SOMETIMES PEOPLE HIDE STUFF."

I’ve been doing this blog thing for a few weeks now and have been overwhelmed by the love and support from around the world!  You guys and gals really are the best and I’m so grateful that my words are resonating.  For me, writing is a form of therapy and just as helpful to my own heart as it seems to be to yours.  Lately though, my heart has been aching and today I’m going to share a bit more with you…

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BROKE & BROKE DOWN...BUT NEVER BROKEN!

I’m a blessed guy and I’ve had the opportunity to do some pretty awesome stuff, but I want to be very clear about a few things.  My life is not easy, my career is not full of glitz or glamour and luck has nothing to do with what the outside world often perceives as success.  I’ve busted my butt for every single opportunity I’ve ever received and even though you might glance at my social media from time to time and think my life’s poppin’…

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