Re-Write YOUR Story!
Why is it so hard to step out of our comfort zones, especially when everything inside is telling us to shake things up? Are we afraid of failure? Are we afraid of the unknown? Are we afraid of what others might think or say about us? The answer to all of these questions is yes.
I'm pretty sure that didn't come as a shock to many, but what might shock some of you is that what you might ACTUALLY be most fearful of is the possibility of success, or happiness. That fear is so powerful in ways you'll never realize until you make the decision to face it head on. I did just that recently, and the results have rocked me to my core and changed the man that I am.
I haven't had the easiest road, but I also haven't had it as bad as so many, which can be a tricky thing to navigate. On the one hand, I've spent much of my life wanting others to simply see me, to acknowledge my struggles, to show compassion for my pain, because to me, my pain is very real and has taken me to some pretty dark places. But then on the other hand, I'm very much aware of the certain amount of privilege that I was born into, which makes me feel guilty for even considering that others should care about my struggles. It's a scary mindset to have, but one I think many of us are familiar with.
Last October, I'd had enough and decided to do something about the unhealthy patterns I'd created in my life. So, I went home to Ohio and started writing a book. I had no real game plan or strategy for what I thought the book would become. I didn't even write a basic outline for where I thought I wanted the book to go; I simply started writing. And then, it got hard...like really, REALLY hard.
Sharing deeply personal and sometimes traumatic stories with complete strangers isn't most people's idea of an enjoyable experience. I cannot tell you how many meltdowns I had over the course of the past 10 months or how many times I would pick a fight with someone close to me, threaten to delete the entire thing and yell obscenities at anyone within earshot. I was frustrated, I felt inadequate and I felt so very alone. None of these are emotions we generally gravitate towards, but maybe we should rethink that strategy.
I've always been a firm believer, at least in theory, that anything worth having is worth fighting for and know that the proudest moments in our lives almost always come after the deepest despair or hardship, after we've been challenged and pushed to the edge of what we think are our limits. Well, writing my first book has pushed me to my personal limits...and so far beyond!
I've never been so insecure, I've never been so broke, I've never been so uncertain, and I've never been so anxious about anything in my life, as I have been about releasing this book. This journey has been long and winding, but I wouldn't trade a moment of it, because some really incredible things have happened to me along the way. I've found my voice, I've found my purpose, and I've found myself.
Interestingly enough, I've also never been happier.
We are all created with a purpose and for a purpose, but too often we'd rather minimize who we are out of fear. I'm urging you to stop doing that! All those inspirational quotes, posters and catch phrases we've all heard our entire lives are actually true, but only if we're willing to do more than just nod in agreement or share those words of wisdom on social media. It's up to each and every one of us to take action!
I feel like I'm about to take you all "to church" right now and as much as I'd love to go there (and will in the future) I'm going to stop for now. It's not my job to push you towards anything you're not currently willing to accept as your destiny, but I will say this. You DO have a destiny, you ARE divinely created and you CAN have the life you've always dreamed of...if you're willing to get honest with yourself, dig deep and go places you've never gone before. I'm rooting for you, I believe in you and I love you.
Also, if you're ready to re-write your story, but think you might need a little help...I've got you covered. In my book, Flipping the Script, I not only take you on my own personal journey of self discovery and growth, but I have created space within the book for you to do the same. At the end of each chapter I've created "Script Rewrites" that are simple, actionable items that you can do in real time to start "flipping the script" on your own life. I wrote this book for YOU...but found myself in the process. Imagine what you might discover when you decide it's time to rewrite YOUR story!
"If there is breath in your lungs, it's not too late to re-write your story!" -AJ Gibson